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For those who don’t know what they want in their 20s

I don't Know What I want in my 20s

For some people, their 20’s is where their middle life crisis begins. It is the age where your peers are either getting cool jobs, traveling to places or even starting their own families.

You are an adult now and sometimes it is a struggle because society is expecting you to become something when you are still unsure of what you truly want.



I know that sometimes we want to hurry and make tons of cash right away. But do you really want to jump in the real world without knowing what you really want?

This might lead to just making you feel frustrated, unhappy and feel that life is not fulfilling. Being a 20 something and not knowing what you want is okay. Here’s why.

You Still Have Time

There is no need to rush or to force yourself to reach it. Your life is just getting started. That’s totally okay if you don’t know what you really want to do with your life. Life is not supposed to be a race, it is supposed to be about the journey.

Your 20s is supposed to be the time where you should explore, discover, an experiment in order to figure out what you truly want to be. The amount of opportunities are endless and they will come.



Traditional Way is Not the Only Way

I know that society had this linear path which is considered standard for everyone. It goes like:

go to school > finish school > get a job > get a house and start a family.

This path has put a lot of pressure in every young adult out there. And if you are not following it, everybody is going to think that you will have no future at all. But we all know that it isn’t that easy and it isn’t the only way. It’s okay if you don’t follow what society has designed for everybody.

The path that they’ve given us is old-fashioned. Sure, it may have worked decades ago but the world is changing now. Society wants you to think that it is the only way but it’s not. Not all successful people had to follow the traditional path in order to find success.

You don’t even need a college degree in order to secure a good paying job, some people even earn without having to endure the 9-5 life. There is nothing wrong with following the traditional way and there’s also nothing wrong with not following it.

There is no standard recipe that guarantees success. What works for others may not work for you and vice versa. A college degree or a school where you studied will not determine your fate. Only you can find out what will work best for you.

Assess Your Skills

In order to figure out what do you really want to do. Ask yourself, what am I good at? What skills do I have?

Are you good at music? arts? writing? List them all out and research which skills could be profitable for you. We’ve all heard of the saying If you’re good at something, never do it for free, right?

This way, you might find out which potential job will suit you. Which leads us to the next thing.

Start Taking Risks

You are never going to know what you really want if you don’t try to find it. If you are currently employed and you feel like this is not what you want to do for the rest of your life, you just want to quit. Just do it! It’s better to do it now than spend 3-5 more years of being unhappy and lost.

Many people are afraid to do it, out of fear that they might never find something else good. This is what holds us back into finding what we really want. But how will you get to where you want to be if you never make the first step? Do you really want to continue to be stuck on the same old thing that you don’t even enjoy?

Do not fear a state of change. Sure, it will be a setback and you’ll have to start all over again. But it’s better to start now when you are young. Why don’t you start on applying to a bunch of different jobs that might interest you? Your 20s should be the time for experimenting. So take that odd jobs, explore, work and learn.

Going in the real world will make you learn more about yourself, what you like, what you don’t like, what your strengths are and weaknesses. You will also learn how to deal in different situations and with different people. Not only you will figure those out but getting a first-hand life experience will help shape you into a better person.

Start taking risks. It’s better to do it now than in your 40s, right?

It’s Better to Fail Now Than Later

This is the time to make mistakes. Well, of course, not on purpose. But failure is part of life. People are afraid to fail and that’s natural. However, we should never be because it’s normal. Our fear of making mistakes is one reason that holds us back from reaching our potentials. Everyone in the world has failed a thousand times and it doesn’t exempt all the successful people in the world.

And failure is the best teacher of all. Without it, we will never learn, we will never become the people that we need to be on time. Failure makes you dig deeper and do better. It helps us grow as a person.

“It is impossible to live without failing at something unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.” — J.K. Rowling

Not Everyone Has It Figured Out

You need to stop comparing yourself with the people that surround you. They have their own thing. Instead, you should focus on your own path, your goals and not the others. Even if it may seem like the people surrounding you has got it all figured out, trust me they don’t. If people knew what exactly to do at the beginning then everyone would be successful already.

So if you are in your 20s and you already feel hopeless. Well, you shouldn’t. Not knowing things is part of life. It means that you still have a lot to learn and more adventures to do. Figuring it out is what makes it fun, it’s all part of the process.



3 responses to “For those who don’t know what they want in their 20s”

  1. This is a good read. I never thought about this when I was in my 20’s on which it’s what I’m doing back then.. hmn..come to think of it.. it’s been a good journey and as you learned… you become wise.

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